Making a Splash

"I was the lifeguard at a summer camp, and I had a huge crush on one of the counselors. We didn't have much interaction since I had to sit in the lifeguard stand, so one day, I pretended as if the pool had to be skimmed so I could be close enough to say something to her. As I approached, I tripped and fell onto her...Moncler Hoody Women pulling her into the water. I completely crushed her, and she was so unprepared to go under that she came up choking and sputtering. Every kid in the pool was laughing hysterically. I apologized profusely and decided to stay in my chair from then onMoncler Bags." —Eric, 26

A Bald Move

"I had been dating two girls I really liked. One night, I went out with my friends and Girl Number 1, and my buddy—who has a rep for being a total cock-blocker—was taking pictures.designer sunglasses men I told him not to post any on Facebook because I didn't want my cover blown. But true to form, the next day he ended up tagging a shot of me kissing Girl Number 1. It wasn't long before I got an irate e-mail from Girl Number 2. I was fuming until I remembered that on my camera, I had a shot of his premature bald spot. So I used it to create a Facebook profile that I named Billy's Little Bald Spot and invited all our friends—and plenty of hot girls—to add him as a friend.Moncler Women Vest" -Ryan, 23

Eat Slower to Eat Less

People who paced their meals maintained higher blood levels of two hormones that signal the brain
to stop consuming than did those who chowed down in a rush, reports a new study. The takeaway: When you're attempting to drop pounds, rather than change your diet, make sure you aren't speed eating.fashion clothing

Preheat oven to 450 degrees.

Place steaks on a rimmed baking sheet, and season with salt and pepper. Sprinkle herbes de Provence on both sides, and drizzle with olive oil. Roast for 10 to 12 minutes. Let the steaks rest for 10 minutes on a cutting board.
Meanwhile, bring a large pot of salted water to boil. Add the pasta, and cook until tender but still firm to the bite, 8 to 10 minutes. In a food processor (or blender), combine the tomatoes and their juice with 2 cups basil and the garlic, lemon zest, lemon juice, and V* cup olive oil. Process until the mixture is coarsely chopped.
Drain pasta, reserving 1 cup of water. Transfer cooked pasta to a bowl. Add tomato mixture and almonds, and toss. If needed, thin with a little of the reserved water, and season with salt and pepper. Garnish with Parmesan cheese and chopped basil. Slice steaks Vt inch thick, and serve with the pasta.Buy Christian

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What is ABILIFY (aripiprazole)?
ABILIFY is a prescription medicine used as an add-on treatment to an antidepressant for adults with Major Depressive Disorder who had an inadequate response to antidepressant therapy. What is depression?Moncler hat
Depression is a common but serious medical condition Symptoms may include sadness, loss of interest in activities you once enjoyed, loss of energy, difficulty concentrator or making decisions, feelings of worthlessness or excessive guilt, insomnia or excessive sleep, a change in appetite causing weight loss or gain, or thoughts of death or suicide. These could be depression symptoms if they interfere with daily life at home, at work, or with friends and last most of the day. nearly every day for at least 2 weeks. What is the most important information that I should know about antidepressant medicines, depression, and other serious mental illnesses?
• Antidepressant medicines may increase suicidal thoughts or actions in some children, teenagers, and young adults
• Depression and serious mental illnesses are the most important causes of suicidal thoughts and actions
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SIDE PLANK
(1) Start in a side plank, using your left arm and knees for support. Extend your right arm to the floor, palm facing away from your body. Moncler Men's Sweaters
(2) Lift your right arm straight up, rotating so that your palm faces behind you. Hold for a few seconds, then return to start. Do at least 30, and switch sides.

DOUBLE ARM TWIST
(1) Begin with feet slightly wider than shout der-width apart, arms out and slightly bent, forearms and palms facing up—you'll feel your biceps tighten.
(2) Extend and rotate both arms so your palms face behind you. Hold for a few seconds, then return to start. Thafs one rep; do at least 30. .

REACH AND GRAB
(1) Stand with feet wider than shoulder-width apart, placing most of your weight on your left leg, right arm by your side. Extend your left arm, elbow bent and palm relaxed.
(2) Reach up with your left arm, closing your hand into a fist—your muscles will tense up—and hold tor three seconds. That's one rep; do at least 30, and switch sides.

SINGLE-ARM SLAPBACK

(1) Stand with feet wider than shoulder-width apart, abs tight. Raise your arms, elbows bent, so that they're

at chest level, with your right arm a few inches above the left. Rotate your forearms so that your palms face out.

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HE GIVES TOO MANY DETAILS

Don't befooled by a guy who offers up tons of minor bits of information about where he's been or what he's been doing. At first, it may seem that because he can describe so much, he must be truthful. But he could actually be trying to cover h is ass. "If he's tel li ng a story and you notice he's peppering it with insignificant details, that's a warning sign," says Driver. This is especially true if you detect a lot of pauses, because it means he's trying to come up with more facts." Think about it: When you're speaking honestly, you never actually go into all the minutiae—like the name of the bartender or what color the walls were—because you don't retain that superfluous info in everyday life.

HE WANTS MORE SEX

Yes, maybe he's just extrahorny or you're looking extrahot, but a sudden surge in his sexual appetite can also be a sign that something's awry. "A man who's hiding something won't want to con nect emotional ly th rough conversation because he's afraid if he does, he'll spill the secret," says Krista Bloom, PhD, a psychologist in Florida. "Instead, because he loves you, he'll look to fill that void byconnecting with you physically." But since various things can cause a spike in a guy's sex drive—like an awesome shift in your relationship sparked by, say, getting engaged—don't accuse him of anything without ruling out other explanations.

RACHEL FEINSTEIN

 I actually know Tom through this friend of mine, Mark Fletcher, a private art consultant. Tom was interested in my husband John Currin's paintings. Tom is an amazing guy, obviously, and he really is extremely entertaining too. So whenever we see each other, we kind of latch onto each other. So when I got this e-mail from him in June, it was just so exciting because it was so unexpected. You know, I never knew he liked my style. I just jumped out of my seat and I was like, "John! Look at this!" and we were both so excited. I was like, "God, Tom just wrote me and wants to put me in his show." I was like, "Wow!" and that was awesome—really, really awesome. I literally wrote him that second. I think I was naked writing that.
I love his stuff. I have always loved his stuff. I think he's a genius. And the funny thing is, for some reason, I never thought that he thought I personified his style. I always imagined this Gucci woman and just this flat-chested, very angular, beautiful, sexy, kind of Carolyn Murphy- or Amber Valletta-looking woman. And I'm not that type of body and am more Ruben-esque. So I was also really interested to see what he envisioned for me. He didn't tell us who the other women were; he said it would be some time in September and he didn't really have a date yet. I also had just stopped breast-feeding my third child, and I was about 12 to 15 pounds heavier than I've ever been, so I was like, "Oh my gosh, I've got to lose this weight," and it was a great incentive. It was the best thing in the whole world just to think, "Tom Ford wants to make some clodies for me. It's going to be in September, so you better get your ass in gear." In August, these two absolutely handsome, straight, impeccably dressed Italian men showed up in my studio to take my measurements from nipple to nipple and from my breasts to my pubic hair. It was so weird and kind of crazy and something I've never done before. It was really exciting. And I kept saying, "I've got to lose some more weight," hair. They had to dye my hair that red color, and my husband didn't want them to dye it permanently that color. He got all freaked out about me having red hair. So they put in a very temporary red mousse just before the show.

what's going on

  before his own fashion shows. "But I realized I wasn't drinking to relax; I was drinking to escape. That's why I saw a therapist, to see exactly what I was trying to escape from." Their conclusion: "I was ciying to escape from boring goddamned industry dinner parties, which I don't go to anymore."
  He's back in the business, but he's steering clear of the part}' circuit. He's lost 12 pounds and can eat anything he wants. He says he couldn't gain weight if he tried. "All that puffiness that you have from alcohol just went away, and my cheekbones popped back out, I guess," he says with a smile. When I protest that he looks better than any sober 49-year-oid I've ever met, he smiles again. "I really mean this: I've never been happier in my life. If anything, I have too many good things happening right now, and that's wearing me out! And you look better when you're happy.'

asnion cure-all

Last fall during Fashion Week, three different friends told me that they'd recendy been to visit a shaman. "Like, a feather-waving, rattle-shaking kind of shaman?" I asked.
Yes, a feather-waving, rattle-shaking kind of shaman. A soul healer.
"It was amazing," said Christina,* gripping my arm over drinks at the Lion.
"Incredible," said Sophie* a fashion publicist.
These are New Yorkers, mind you. Chic New Yorkers in platform leopard Yves Saint Laurent stilettos and fur collars, with their lips painted into lovely little hearts. Talking about shamans. And soul healing.
At home, I asked my own soul how it was doing. After a long silence, it responded that it felt like it had been stuck in die dryer on high heat—for, like, a year. I called my friend Anna* "So, what exacdy do these shamans ddf I asked.
"You're not really supposed to talk about it," she answered, texting me the number of her shaman, Elizabeth Clemants. "But if you go, make sure you ask for the bands of protection."
The bands of protection. The words alone made my beat-up soul give a parched little gasp. I called the shaman. "How soon can you see me?" I asked.
As it turned out, she was booked solid for three weeks. While I waited, I wondered: What, really, is a shaman, and why are all these fashionable New Yorkers suddenly so hot and bothered about them?

ELIE TAHARI

E le Taharl ard Harper's Bazaar joined forces for a dazzling celebration in honor of the new Eile Taharl boutique at Saks Fifth Avenue In New York City. Designer Elie Tahari aid Saks President and Chief Merchandising Officer Ronald Frasch hosted this exclusive event, at which Gossip Girl star Katie Cassidy was a special guest,
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'90s MINIMALISM

Tailoring, volume, sculpture, and restraint. Those were the buzzwords for a bevy of designer looks for fall. This less-is-more sensibility translated into sharp, menswear-inspired suits, cocoon-shaped coats, and even a few hard-edged leather leggings. Back to the basics also meant back to black. These streamlined designs all relied on a solid noir palette, from the sleek versions at Versace and Jil Sander to the more feminine feel at Givenchy and Dolce & Gabbana. 

OPULENCE

In fashion, there is no such thing as an embarrassment of riches. And this season shone with gilded grandiosity. From rich brocades to burnished metallics, excess was in. There was a surge of mosaic patterns topped with sophisticated finishes—fur, feathers, fringe, and everything in between—at Oscar de la Renta, Missoni, and Roberto Cavalli. And with his final elaborate collection, Alexander McQueen showcased his everlasting talent. ^

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CHEAP STAPLES

"Something as simple as a white shirt can be luxurious to someone," says designer Alexander Wang. "Everyone has his or her own idea of what luxury is." For him, luxury is designing well-priced basics in easy-to-wear fabrics and cuts. After all, the 26-year-old cleverly warmed up to recession-friendly prices early in the game, in 2008 creating his T line, an ever-expanding collection of lower-priced staples that started off with soft tees and tanks but this fall is growing to a full brand, complete with skinny pants and capes. Many other young designers are following suit. Edgy downtown New York designer Yigal Azrouel is launching his Cut 25 line of digitally printed frocks, glittery miniskirts, and layerable cotton separates, most of which ring in under $500. Bloomingdale's recently signed on Vena Cava duo Sophie Buhai and Lisa Mayock to bring their flirty French-girl aesthetic to a limited-edition capsule collection, featuring ruffled blouses, soft cotton studded shorts, and geometric-patterned dresses, under the label Vena Cava for Aqua. Out in September, the line has prices from $98 to $198. But if your weakness falls more in the fancy-footing category, the introduction of Salvatore Ferragamo's new lower

faiess

we've learned anything over the past two years from our trendsetcing first lady, Michelle Obama, who has paired J. Crew with everything from Etro to Alai'a, its that great style doesn't always have to come at a steep price. The art of dressing well is less about how much something costs and more about how it all comes together. And while this season's standouts—like the sophisticated camel coats at Michael Kors, Chloe, and MaxMara; the ladylike structured bags at Celine and Marc Jacobs; and the spotted and striped furs at Fendi, Lanvin, and Valentino—arc surely topping every fashion lover's most-wanted list, their price tags sometimes prove to be less than accessible. And if spending millions on your wardrobe isn't in the (credit) cards this time around, there are still ways of making your dollars and fashion sense go the distance.

The brand's NEW WATCH is both polished and playful

"Crazy Carats," the moniker for Fendi's new timepiece collection, pretty much says it all. This whimsical watch, which allows the wearer to rotate diamond, sapphire, and topaz markets for three different colorways, is truly a masterpiece to go mad for. Under the direction of family matriarch Silvia VentLtrini Fendi, the accessories tfWV division of the formidable Italian

Calling all uptown girls!

 Designer Derek Lam is opening his second Manhattan store this fall, on Madison Avenue. "This is my latest collaboration with Pritzker-prizewinning architects SANAA, whose abil-ity to create a space that is minimalist yet warm has become part of our aesthetic," Lam says of the boutique, which joins his much-celebrated Crosby Street locale. The gallery-like interior showcases Lam's luxe fur toppers, breezy blouses, and other smart separates.

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I KNEW THAT AS LONG AS I WAS I COULD MAKE IT

That's not to say she isn't grateful for the opportunities modeling gave her. "It got me where I am today," she says. "I learned a lot. I lost a lot, gained a lot. Then I moved on, I had to change the world." Her last job was another Pirelli calendar, the 1997 edition shot by Richard Avedon,
Since 2002, the nonprofit Waris Dirie Foundation has assisted more than 40,000 people all over the world who have been affected or threatened by FGM. "Once a mother from Sudan came to my office with her two-year-old daughter. They had fled the conflict in Darfur, and now her husband and his parents had decided to have the little girl mutilated," recalls Dirie. "1 immediately informed social services and talked to both the father and his parents about FGM. The girl was saved."
She is quick to point out that FGM is not just a women's issue. "As the mother of two boys, I feel we have to teach men early. Eveiy education begins with Mama, We have to rethink what we teach our sons. That's the most important thing,"
This year, Dirie plans to show Desert Flowerfree of charge iriAfnca and to educate lawyers in Kenya on how to help women affected by FGM, domestic violence, or forced marriage. She is also, along with Salma Flayek, Stella McCartney, Gucci's Frida Giannini, and others, on the board of the PPR Foundation for Women's Dignity and Rights, which campaigns for women's causes worldwide.
Dirie currently splits her time between Gdansk, Poland, and Vienna but says, "Look, I belong nowhere and to no one." Her next move may be to Africa, likely to Tanzania, later this year.
"When I go back to Somalia and talk to women about FGM," Dirie says, "they always ask me, 'You mean you left your camels to go live in white man's world?'
"And I always say, 'Yes, I did that. A camel girl did that. I did it with my wish and my wheel and my way.'"

from torture to triumph

Dilie was modeling in the '90s, photograp hers would sometimes notice the dark scare and scratches on her long, elegant feet.They look like someone took a lash to her,or a vicious birch branch. In the fashion  world, where perfection is vital, people would insist Dirjc needed body makeup or an emergency pedicure. e In fact, those scars are potent reminders of who she is and where she comes from. Dirie is a former super-
g model turned activist whose mission is stopping female genital mutilation (FGM). This year, her life story will be told in the film Desert Flower, starring  the model and actress Liya Kehede as  the adult Dirie, based on Dirie's 1998 autobiography of the same name. "I was  moved and shocked [when I saw] my entire childhood on screen,'' Dirie tells me as we sit  in her chic hotel room off the Champs-Elvsees in Paris, where she is promoting die film's upcoming French release. "It brought back all the memories."

must-see movies

UNE PARISIENNE
Laetitia Casta plays Brigitte Bardot in the French biopic Gomsbourg (Vie Herotque) JETT-SETTERKristen
Stewart is a youngjoan Jett in The Runaways. 
HIGH NOTE Miley Cyrus's character reconnects with her estranged father in The Last Song COUPLES THERAPY Steve Carell and Tina Fey take hilarious detours on the road to romance in Dote Night CHILD'S PLAY Filmmaker Thomas Balmes follows four infants from around the world—from birth to first steps—in Babies.
 MODERN FAMILY A seemingly normal clan has everyone fooled in Thejoneses.

Must-Read Books

MY FAIR LADY


Bazaar contributor Derek Blasberg shares his style and social wisdom for modern women inGtay. QUEEN LlZliz Oo&ome is a loving tribute to the late fashion designer by her husband and partner. Art Ortenberg. WOMAN'S DAYFrom feminism to face cream, Backwards in High Heefc is a witty collection of essays about the joy and pain of beinga lady. DRESSED TO IMPRESS Linda Grant shows how clothes are expressions of public identity and culture inThe Thoughtful Dresser.

home ministry

She is the wife of an MP, an art patron and a celebrated Kuchipudi dancer. MANJU SARA RAJAN meets the affable Shallu Jindal
  Jindal House looks foreboding. It's not just that the gate is a heavy-set edifice that cuts off any view of the house's inhabitants, but also the fact that it sits on Prithviraj Road. Prithviraj Road is to Delhi what Rodeo Drive is to Los Angeles—an avenue with an important collection of India's political and industrial brands: Ad-vani, Goenka, Dalmia and Punj. So, when I meet Shallu Jindal, it's not just a relief but also a total surprise.
  This month, Shallu will celebrate the 17th anniversary of her marriage to polo player shooter steel titan MP Naveen Jindal, head of the conglomerate Jindal Steel & Power Ltd. The daughter of a businessman father, Shallu married Naveen when she was 23 years old. The wedding took place soon after she moved back from London, where she studied fashion and interior design. Since her marriage, Shallu has been in a state of constant transformation, going from young wife to mother, then art patron to her husband's most reliable ally, and now a lauded Kuchipudi dancer.
Married into a family that has always been active in politics—her late father-in-law was an MLA from Hisar, Haryana; her mother-in-law Savitri Jindal represents the constituency now—Shallu is the essential supportive wife. Shallu says she and Naveen haven't spent a Sunday alone in years; the most amount of time they get together is when they are travelling in a car or on a flight.
In 2004, when her husband declared his intention to join politics, she stood by him despite family reservations about the idea. "He said these were the best years of his life and he wanted to use them for his country, and I supported that," she says. In fact, Shallu applies a great deal of zeal to every project her husband takes on. A symbol of their symbiotic relationship sits in the front yard of the Jindal home: an Indian flag at full mast. It's an unusual sight for an Indian home, but for this family, the flag is a victorious symbol. Naveen spent nine years in court fighting for the right of private citizens to fly the national flag: it was illegal till he won the case amending that law in 2003. Shallu worked on the project with him, and after his win she published a coffee-table book, and organised events to spread awareness through Flag Foundation of India, a Jindal organisation.
In person, Shallu doesn't look like a politico wife. A petite woman with an open smile, lilting voice, and the demeanour of a self-conscious person, she's intentionally humble, suffixing many statements with "God has been kind". But then, Shallu is extremely religious—a quality reflected in small but telling ways in her life. For instance, her children have decidedly traditional monikers. "Names should mean something because the child becomes like that," she says. So, there's 15-year-old Venkatesh, one of Lord Bala-ji's names, and 12-year-old Yashasvini, which means "bringer of fame and fortune". Shallu was actually born Shalini (one of Durga's names, she points out), but it's a shortened version that stuck. "I tiy to live like a Shalini, though," she says, laughing.
Dance, dance
Shallu's spiritual leanings also paved the way for her to meet Kuchipudi master Raja Reddy at the age of 31 and become his student. "I met my guru at Tirupati. Both our families were together during the puja, and we exchanged phone numbers," she says. Shallu, who'd learned some Kathak as a child, was deeply interested in learning Kuchipudi, and Reddy was convinced to take on a new student.
Now she's become one of Reddy's most prominent dancers—a regular performer at classical dance festivals around the country. "Her dedication is unimaginable," says Reddy. "She makes me very happy with the hard work she puts in. For a Punjabi girl from a conservative family, she is a very expressive dancer." Shallu's daughter is also Reddy's student; the mother-daughter duo has done several shows together. Shallu practices dance five times a week, does yoga daily and eats carefully. Her regimen keeps her looking much younger than she is.
That's also why it's hard to imagine Shallu standing on a podium giving a speech during an election campaign through the hinterlands of Haryana. "I remember the first time I had to do it," she says of her public speaking adventures. "To speak in Hindi in front of thousands of people who are just looking at you, wanting to know what you are going to tell them, was difficult. I was very nervous." It's not difficult to believe her when she says the first time she accompanied her husband, many people didn't believe she was Mrs Jindal.
In the family way
Jindal House sits on a large plot of land, divided into four self-contained quarters: one for Shallu and Naveen, two for the families of two brothers (they are a total of six brothers and four sisters) and one for his mother. Designed by Singaporean architect Chiu Man Wong, the residence affords both privacy and communality, and a shared pool and gymnasium.
We met for the interview inside the senior Mrs Jindal's quarter because Shallu's section was under renovation. All through the walls of the living room were some of the biggest signatures in Indian art, including SH Raza and MF Husain. But one piece is distinctly Shallu: the sculpture of a flower-bedecked woman by artist Ravinder Reddy. It's the face of a Kuchipudi dancer. "I never commission pieces except this one," she says. "I emailed Mr Reddy to ask if he could do a sculpture for me; he did this knowing I am a Kuchipudi dancer."
Art is another Jindal family interest that Shallu embraced and made her own. She scoured auction catalogues, attended art courses and taught herself as much as she could. "When I started, I was so excited that I would get up in the middle of the night, go to the bathroom, switch on the light and sit there going through catalogues and mark everything I liked so that I could analyse what I liked about the artist," she says. Over the years, she has built a reputation as a collector. One of the earliest events she organised for the Flag Foundation was an art project for which names like Subodh Gupta and Jitish Kallat made flag-inspired art. Still, Shallu is a conscientious buyer. She sometimes spends weeks ruminating over whether a piece is worth it. "I have to have sleepless nights over it, literally see it in my dreams to be convinced I should put money into it."
Shallu attributes that sensible approach to her other life as a dancer. It has made her realise that money can only get you so far, she says. "When I'm on stage in front of strangers, no amount of money will help the audience relate to me. Knowing that makes me humble." Her address, in that case, is also unimportant. 

family matters

  once upon a time, a brother and a sister decided to tell stories on celluloid—of urban youth, alienated characters and the celebration of the carnivalesque Hindi film industry. Farhan and Zoya Akhtar, as the son and daughter of screenwriting stalwarts Javed Akhtar and Honey Irani, have the power of the word in their blood. They have each written and directed some of the most interesting films of the last decade or so. Zoya's next, Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara, casts Farhan (along with Hrithik Roshan, Abhay Deol, Katrina Kaif and Kalki Koechlin) in a film about a road trip across Spain. In a Vogue conversation, the two discuss what it takes to keep running the family business.
  On growing up together
Zoya: It was quite normal. We're just a year apart. We had our good moments, but we fought.
Farhan: Yeah, I think that it is pretty much a part of growing up, right? Siblings fight. We never hit each other. Not that I remember.
Z: Initially we did, when we were younger. We stopped when he got bigger. F: LWhen I was youngerj Zoya was the only person who could see through all my bullshit. Everyone else would buy into anything I said. I used to lie quite well. And she was hugely responsible for me stopping these constant fabrications. It's annoying as a kid, when your sister becomes a misaal of honesty.
On their storied inheritance
Z: [Storytelling] definitely has something to do with genetics. I mean, just the compulsion to write. For a lot of people it's alien. But when you're growing up, and you see your parents sitting in a room and writing, or you walk in on them discussing a script, you just learn. And we were privileged to work with Adi Pocha. The biggest thing I learnt from him was discipline. You have ideas, but to put them to paper and learn structure, to get over the fear of the blank page—both of us learnt that from him. F: Even to somehow inculcate the discipline of patience within yourself. You know there's a thought and you're not able to put it down. You don't say, 'It's not happening so, chalo, bye-bye, see you.' You have to actually sit there day in and day out; write, delete, write.
  On the art of film
F: The most important thing to me is the story. Entertainment is what makes us laugh, makes us feel good. But you can be entertained by a good drama, a tragicomedy. I think entertainment is about involving your viewer with whatever kind of story you're telling. Z: We're so used to being told this is the beginning, middle and end, that we tend to look for that when we watch a film. But sometimes you stumble across something that's just in another zone. It's a light journey, but the visual imagery is the medium. As a viewer, I want to like every film I'm going to watch. I want to spend the next two or three hours engrossed. F: You're not a forgiving viewer! You're going in with the expectation that you want to like this movie; you'll actually end up a lot more disappointed. Z: But I want to like every movie. Otherwise why bother watching it?
On working together
Z: llf you work with someone close to youl you take certain things for granted, you're more familiar in your tone. F: And there are fewer surprises. I've worked with her as an actor in both her films, and I find that she is very specific about what she wants. Even if it's someone doing just a one-dialogue scene, Zoya is very specific about what she wants from that person.
Z: I think he's a really good dramatic actor—that's not to say other actors are not better. They may be better actors, but I feel like I have to work with him the least. He gets me the quickest, and if I'm confusing him, he'll tell me. F: Also, I'm available and have a flexible schedule [laughs].
On Zindagi No Milegi Dobara
Z: I went to Barcelona with some girlfriends three years ago and fell in love with the city. I wanted to shoot a film there. Then, after Luck by Chance, we started writing; I wanted to write this road movie. Weirdly, I'd forgotten Spain, and it was set in Mexico because I really wanted to go there. Then the story developed in such a way that it needed things that only exist in Spain. F: When you see the film, you can't imagine it anywhere but Spain. The country, the setting, everywhere we go in the film, is integral to the stoiy and the emotional growth of each character.
On their first ambitions
F: A pilot, then a cinematographer. I was really into still photography. Somewhere I knew I would be involved with film. Z: A veterinarian. When I was in college [in the early '90sj the movies were bad. I wanted to write, but I didn't see myself fitting in. I considered law, journalism. F: She wouldn't have had a future in law or journalism because she can't lie.
On Farhan, the actor
Z: I thought Farhan would be an actor. I was surprised when he started as an assistant cinematographer. But I think he's good at both.
F: I told you she tells the truth. Stop testing her. She's not going to lie!

Meanwhile, will the rich just get richer (and older)?

"[One proposal for Social Security reform reduces] future payments to high earners while increasing them for people at the bottom ... [And that] would also help to offset a little-noticed trend: Affluent Americans are increasingly living longer than others."
Peter Orszag, former director of the White House Office of Management and Budget, New York Times

the roundup

Whatever Congress decides to do, that money you set aside— because you saw this mess coming? You may be penalized for saving it. "We need to look at the American people and explain to them that we're broke. If you have substantial non-Social Security income while you're retired, why are we paying you at a time when we're broke? We just need to be honest with people."


Then-House Minority Leader

Comedy Couple

in the 57 years they've been together, comedy team Jerry Stiller and Anne Meara have learned that a quick comeback can fuel a happy marriage.
 STILLER: I don't know if we knew [our marriage] could last. But if you run into roadblocks, you can either abandon ship or see if you get through it. If you do, you have a little more wisdom.
MEARA: You come off so sensitive. If you had talked like that when we were first married, we wouldn't have had any fights.
STILLER: Remember the time you left me?
 MEARA: I can't remember all the times I've left you. STILLER: Anne says, "I'm getting out of here. I've had enough." 
MEARA: I packed a suitcase and went to my friend Dolly's place. 
STILLER: No, I took you on the subway. 
MEARA: All right, you took me.
STILLER: I just wanted to make sure nothing happened to you. You were still my comedy partner. Anyway, we got to the building, and I said, "Let me go upstairs with you."
 MEARA: He clung to me like an infectious disease.
 STILLER: Dolly says, "What are you doing here at two in the morning?" I said, "She's breaking up with me, and I just wanted to bring her over." Well, by five in the morning, we were together again.


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Real Women Read Maps

Psychologist Marcia Reynolds writes about gender issues, and she's recently changed her mind about a lot of things. Her piece "Stop Praising the Differences in Men and Women" is adapted from the Huffington Post. I used to think: Women change the subject more frequently than men do, circling back to the original point after a while.
Now I get it: My companion does this far more than I do.
I used to think: Women are more collaborative and less commandeering than men. Now I get it: The male coaches I work with are sometimes more team-oriented than the women on the job. I used to think:Women multitask, and men focus. Now I get it: We all multitask, and women often home in on a subject with intensity.
So now I suggest we:
W Stop generalizing about which gender does something better. W Start acknowledging it's about individuals, not type. W Quit praising our differences, and honor how the best of us, men and women, are more powerful together.

A FINE VINTAGE

At the reception, the couple created a retro theme by filling birdcages, vases and pitchers bought from flea markets with astSbe. agapanthus. asparagus fern and sedum. Decorations included vintage crockery, silver candlesticks and bunting. Fc the table plan they arranged their favourite seven-inch records on a board with the matching steeves on the tabJes, wtvle place names were luggage labels tied around lavender hearts (made by Sarah' mum and sister) and small bottles of Frangelico.
"Overall we were both blown away with the look we achieved." says Sarah. "But I'd advise any bride to get everything finished the week before the wedding, and not to spend the last few days staying up till 3am. You should relax and enjoy the day." Which is exactly what they did. After a feast that included venison with chestnuts or sea bass with chilli, Craig's fun-loving mum surprised everyone with a choreographed rendition of Daft Punk's Around The World video complete with family members dressed as robots, skeleton and swimmers. "It was absolutely hilarious and possibly one of the best things anyone had ever seen at a wedding!" says Sarah.

A FINE VINTAGE

W'ith a love of art. food and fine wine in common, it's not surprising that Sarah. 33. and Craig, 28. hit it off when she interviewed hm for a job. "He got it -based on merit of course!" laughs Sarah. "He has such a positive attitude and is so much fun to be around. After too many cocktails at an office do. I confessed my undying love and we started dating"
Four years laten after an impromptu proposal with an engagement 'string' that Craig had fashioned from the top of a bottle of Prosecco - "he was too excited to wait to pop the question over dinner!" - the couple chose The George in Rye. with its patterned wallpapers and panelled walls, for their antique-themed October day. "We spent hours at Spitalfields Market rummaging through old wedding photos so every guest could have a unique invitaton." says Sarah, who finished the 80 handmade designs with lace and pearl detailing.
"I love Audrey Hepburn's look in Funny Foce. so Kate Halfpenny - whose designs combine onginal vintage and new vintage-inspired pieces - was my kind of designer. I wanted a combination of a Fifties lace skirt panel with a blush, satin bodice and capped sleeves." Sarah matched the dress with a necklace from eBay, shoes from LK Bennett and a bespoke headpiece from Kann Andreasson. Craig looked dashing m a blue jaeger suit finished with brown brogues from Paul Smith. "We walked from the ceremony, but we did borrow Craig's mum's latte-colouned Nissan Figaro for the photos.''

THREE-ACT ROMANCE

As both Sajdah and Rob work in the design jjstry there were two pairs of creative eyes on ery detail. "Rob designed our stationery, which as inspired by a Wilt-am Morris pattern and the aharaja Exhibition at the V&A Museum," says ijdah. "And we settled on a warm coral and putty ey for the paper and envelopes." They sourced ystal candelabra for the tables and went for blue shions on the chairs, with small vases of blush
nk. cream and coral roses to decorate the tables.
After a meal of chicken liver pat6. sea trout or igetaWe nsotto and a trio of desserts, the couple id their first dance to a live recording of Fifties altz Dream Gri - more recently covered by Nick awe and everyone partied until the smaH hours
> four-piece band Urban Blue. "Some things didn't tm out exactly as planned, but nothing spoiled our ay." says Sajdah. "Working on everything together, ulding memories of our special day is something
will both cherish forever.''

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"My adolescent years were terrible; I suffered so much and it was tough," she remembers. "When I became; mother, it was wonderful but so crazy—a lot going on My mid-30s to mid-40s were the best part of my life You gain an incredible sense of security. I would neve go back to my 20s, not for all the money in the world Not even for a billion euro."
Angela doesn't have to trade anything for money any way. After a few seasons with her own clothing label, sh-took the creative helm of Missoni's women's collectior from her mother, who was happy to shift over to thi less-hectic Missoni Home line. Her runway debut it 1997 jump-started the label and was the start of. 14-year run of enormous professional success. The lates collection for fall was a fresh and innovative take on th> brand's signature knits, with louche silhouettes and ; soft, cool pastel palette.
As creative director of a label as glamorous as Mis soni, Angela herself sometimes skews the opposite with a healthy earth-mother sensibility "A while ago, I started realizing tha everyone was going to the hairdressei I've never gone to the hairdressei I barely leave the house," sh-reveals. "And you'll hardly eve see me at a restaurant in Milan I go once a month; that's m; average." Though she has livec her entire life in the hills o Sumirago, doing her owr hair and nails, Angela i hardly a recluse.
Indeed, a cosmopolitar vibe is woven into he lifestyle just as tightly as thosi eclectic knits. With the well dressed Ragazzi on her arm, shi zips to Sardinia for August Venice for the film festival, Sevilli for Easter, Miami for art shows and New York for visits wit! Ragazzi's children. He privileged upbringing mad Angela's dermatological treatise. She is unwittingly cool about having her ex-husband turn up at dinnertime or for the holidays. "At this point, I look at him like one of my brothers. Sometimes you get along, sometimes you don't, but you hang on to them. He's the father of my children, so he is part of this family."
With her kids, she has always acted more as a friend than a household dictator, keeping a safe but controlled distance and granting them liberty. "It never seemed to me like freedom," Angela remarks. "It just seemed normal. I treated them like responsible people. And I'm a good listener, so they talk."
Ivoosening the choke hold and allowing them to float freely around the world—from New York to Sydney— worked. She adds, "Its funny because they all left home, and in the last two years, they've all come back to me."
With Margherita back in Milan after living in New York and now actively working with the family company, could she perhaps one day assume some of her mother's responsibility the same way Angela did for Rosita?
"I'm starting to see that," Angela says, conceding that she would happily hand over the role to anyone who could follow all areas of the company. "Now that she's more involved, I realize that she has all the qualities necessary to be able to do it.
"I'd like to eventually have a second life—like my mom had [with Missoni Home]," Angela admits. "I saw this renewal of her enthusiasm late in life, and it was very dif-x rent, a different pace. Let's call it a 'Part II."' ■

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It didn't take long for Bush tc into her own ambitions. In I school, she began modeling. "My big job was an Abercrombie & I campaign," she remembers. "Bu mom wouldn't let me skip scl for it, so I missed half of the sh When we got there, we real Bruce Weber was the photograf | we knew we had made a mistak< Her experience in front of the c j era and her posh pedigree landed on many magazine covers through years, from Wto Town & Country. catapulted onto the social scene in / at Le Bal des Debutantes at the H de Crillon in Paris, where she dancc a one-of-a-kind Dior confection sm from the archives.
Despite her time in the spodight, B education remained a top priority; graduated from Princeton in 2006 -a B.A. in anthropology and a certifi in photography, but she also took s mer classes at Parsons and Central S Martins for fashion design.
She's put that training to good us< addition to her FEED bags, she launched an ecofriendly clot line, Lauren Pierce Atelier, in 2008. The collection, whi-coming to the Calypso St. Barth bouuques this summer, fea bright silk dresses hand dyed by women in the Democ Republic of the Congo.
Bush attributes her affinity to style to her grandmo Barbara Bush, the former first lady, known for her bold and Kenneth Jay Lane jewelry. "She has always paid atten to fashion," says Bush of the famously opinionated matri (who sends her granddaughter messages via her iPad). "S a very assertive grandma; she'll let you know if she likes ^ you're wearing or not."
Luckily, Bush prefers classic pieces over trendy ones, favors printed dresses, denim, and tailored knits for and the same effortlessness informs her evening choices fittingly relics on the timeless creations from Ralph La' (often a black dress paired with one of her FEED b; It's a look that perfectly sums her up: equal parts elegant jniercta :ed, the ultimate Lauren Lauren.